Signs if your loved one is cheating on you....

Hi...Please share your experiences or insights when you can tell that your significant other is cheating on you.... Can you tell that she/he is cheating if her/his cellphone is always empty batt if you are not together? Is something going on if he/she is not informing you of his/her whereabouts etc.? Hope to hear some PROVEN insights..

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1. rosedust82 (1205) ranked 2,543 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
Hi dom_ryan09... Well, usually the first thing that you'll notice about your partner is that he/she, for some reason, becomes cold. Meaning he/she doesn't suddenly stops doing things that you used to do together. Another is if he/she is constantly texting and when you ask, they say it's a friend. I don't think not telling you where you are is a sign. I don't really know. I'm not one to ask where exactly a person is. For some reason, girls have a better sense when it comes to cheating boyfriends. I don't know if other girls would agree with me but I think even if there are signs, the girl just seems to feel that there's something wrong. If you get my drift...
dom_ryan09 (33)
10 months ago
Thank you rosedust82 for that insight... Yes, perhaps you are correct that telling her whereabouts is a NOT an absolute sign of cheating... But don't you think, it's also a sign of being cold to you? She used to tell me her whereabouts before, every little things she actually tells me but now, she's telling me that she's busy with some stuffs like work etc. etc. which I can't understand... Do you think the problem is with me now?
rosedust82 (1205) ranked 2,543 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
Well... I don't personally know your girlfriend so I can't really say... However, let's give her the benefit of the doubt... She might be very busy especially if her work is eating up her time. I think the best thing to do is when you're together, talk about what you feel and if there's someone else. I mean don't say it in a way that is demanding or accusing because it'll just make her more defensive. Ask. If she's honest, she'd say what's on her mind. Reassure her that whatever it is, you won't get mad (although it might be that way if you do find out that she is.Lol) That's the best thing that I can think of in your situation. Ask and be open to the possibility of hearing something that you don't want to hear.
rosedust82 (1205) ranked 2,543 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
Well... I don't personally know your girlfriend so I can't really say... However, let's give her the benefit of the doubt... She might be very busy especially if her work is eating up her time. I think the best thing to do is when you're together, talk about what you feel and if there's someone else. I mean don't say it in a way that is demanding or accusing because it'll just make her more defensive. Ask. If she's honest, she'd say what's on her mind. Reassure her that whatever it is, you won't get mad (although it might be that way if you do find out that she is.Lol) That's the best thing that I can think of in your situation. Ask and be open to the possibility of hearing something that you don't want to hear.
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2. Shar1979 (2280) ranked 6,738 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
when he's cellphone is always ringing and he has to go somewhere to answer it when you're around, when he stays up late at night, when he's not being romantic anymore, when he spends less time with you, when he goes home late from work, when he don;t call you much when he's out of your home like he used to, when he mention somebody else's name when he's sleeping, when he dont compliment you when you're wearing sexy lingerie and wont make love to you
dom_ryan09 (33)
10 months ago
Thank you Shar1979 for your response... I would just like to know if you want to end the relationship, do you tell him directly or have him feels your "coldness" that you don't like him anymore and you wanna move out of the relationship?
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3. n30wing (2093) ranked 1,028 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
I think you can feel it if your partner is cheating on you. Like she/he has alot of excuses not to see you. Now if your in one roof, he?she acts strange like he or she is acting differently. The sweetness is lesser even the thoughtfulness, and even taken you for granted and don't wanna talk. I believe in feeling when your having doubts with what you feel, that your starting to lie even in small matters. And he/ she can't look at you eye to eye.Have a nice day!
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4. Zelda414 (89) ranked 9,439 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
Wow, i will share my experiences with different men in my life; ok if he is a spanish man whether from mexico, spain, colombia dont matter they are just those type of men not to tell you their where abouts they feel that they are men and dont have to report to anyone but that doesnt mean they are unfaithful because i will tell you my fiance who is colombian is 55yrs old, my friends fiance is from mexico and they both do the same thing they dont report to their woman but they are very faithful and we both know this to be a fact. as far as the cellphone goes well there really could be a number of reason for it being an empty battery ummm one maybe they dont have signal in certain areas and states some services just dont have signal everywhere, it could they have off at work and forget to turn it back on unless they need to use it for something, that reason is really endless again with spanish men you never know lol. ok now i will tell you about my experiences with a cheating american man and a cheating black man. ok with the black well he was pretty obvious he made excuses about things when he was lying and was very michievious but he gave himself away because he would flirt and cheat in front of you. Now the worst one of all was a military american soldier who cheated on me for 7yrs, now being an ex military soldier myself i know how it works and i knew his boss, most of his employees below him etc. i found out he was cheating by emails from other woman who would say things like they aint cleaned their house since he left and i confronted them of course, i found leave passes to other woman houses, he would stay til almost midnight at work and no one was there, he would come home at like oh 5 or 6pm then all of a sudden at like 10pm he would say ooops i forgot to turn off the lights at work and then his work was only 5mins away but yet he wouldnt come home for 1-2hrs. some men will avoid you, avoid sleeping with you or kissing you, usually their whole attitudes changes and sometimes they become more jittering. with woman well depends on the type of woman because she is usually more cautious but sometimes her concious will get the best of her and she will slip of if either men or woman drink they usually slip, in either case my advice whether you are a man or woman who feels that your beloved is cheating on you i would say pray about it and ask the truth to be revealed because i promise you it will be revealed if this is your case. sometimes you can find different cologne or perfume smells on them then the ones they wore before they went out, you can find lipstick that isnt yours around them, mysterious clothing appearing, etc. good luck.
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5. kkanaka (222) ranked 13,994 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
Of course you can tell, there will obviously be many changes which will not go unnoticed by you, things will happen which you can see clearly but you still would want to ignore it and pray that its not true, if he/she jumps at a phone call you can tell, is too secretive if he receives any sms or call, or doesnt give full details about his whereabouts... it will take some time to sink in but ultimately you will get all the signals and you wont be able to deny it to yourself...
Zelda414 (89) ranked 9,439 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
kkanaka, i never said to ignore it but i did say to pray about it, of course you never ignore your instincts or the signs, but you should always evaluate the situation as a whole before just jumping to conclusions.
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6. despompa (371) ranked 2,062 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
i've heard this from my friends who had had encountered these problems. if your husband/wife is not comfortable leaving the cellphone anywhere in the house and if he/she is too panicky whenever the message alert tone beeped then most probably there's something that he/she is hiding. i've never experienced this with my husband. he is too faithful and very much inlove. lol!
dom_ryan09 (33)
10 months ago
You are lucky with your husband, despompa!:-)
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7. Zelda414 (89) ranked 9,439 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
Dom, in regards to your comment to rose, umm ill share with you something and i really hope that she is cheating but i can honestly say and will honestly say that i am not cheating on my husband but if i was i would tell you for the purpose of this but i am not. Ok the reason i mention this is because before, for the last 2.5 yrs i use to tell my husband everywhere i went even if it was just downstairs to check the mail or to go pay bills, but recently i havent been telling him because i am only out with my caregiver which is both of our friends so he knows that usually when i go out now it is for appts, just to look around at stores to get out of the house or to do paperwork but i am not doing anything wrong i just i dunno i figure since i am with our mutual friend that he wouldnt worry but a couple days ago he told me it bothered him, he asked me why i changed and i told him i am busy but it slipped my mind because now because of my disability i dont go out alone anymore i go out with a female mutual friend. try not to worry just pray and ask God to reveal the truth and bring it to the light because sometimes men or woman may change and unless its pointed out to us we dont realize how it affects the other person. try talking to her in just casual conversation not to make a big deal of it and you might be suprised ok and pray.
dom_ryan09 (33)
10 months ago
Your response really made me reflect that I should not be thinking that she actually falling out of love with me... Thanks for the advise that yeah, you're right that I have to talk to her in a casula conversation so we can settle our own concerns and not to make a big deal on it... Again, thak you so much
Zelda414 (89) ranked 9,439 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
i am sorry i meant that i really hope she isnt cheating
Zelda414 (89) ranked 9,439 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
Dom, you are more than welcome and i really hope the best for you, remember all couples i dont care if they have been together a few months or up to 100 yrs or more, all couples will go through problems, communication is the key, my friend always says a closed mouth doesnt get fed in another words if you stress and keep your mouth shut then nothing will ever have a chance of being resolved. wishing and praying for you both. keep us posted.
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8. ladysurvivor (3510) ranked 322 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
There are a number of ways in which you can detect whether your spouse is cheating on you. First if you live together it would be much easier to detect the changes that is happening to him/her. The obvious ones can be told without thinking. For example if your husband doesn't like to wear perfume to work, but now everyday we wears perfume. It must be something that is going on. Another thing, if he always look at the mirror, observing his face while humming a song as if he is so happy. This is also a sign of a person in love. Another is when he suddenly changed his appearance. He always want to look nice when he goes out without you, but when he goes out with you he doesn't care much about his appearance. You can notice this without much effort. Another is like what you told just now. Every time when you call him his battery would be out and this is not a good sign, unless you are very sure that his battery is out of order and need a replacement. If this happens you should start checking his messages and phone history but do this without his knowledge or else he might get angry at you. That's all from me. Hope everything is okay with you.
dom_ryan09 (33)
10 months ago
Nice one! Thank you for your response...
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9. redhotpogo (1081) ranked 7,378 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
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10. maxilimian (792) ranked 949 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
I don't know about this ... is that there is something wrong too when you found that your cellphones partner message outbox, sent and incoming or outgoing call is always empty is a sign that the person is cheating right now?
behnke (19) ranked 20,212 out of 35,748 in life
10 months ago
Depends I suppose.Is it only recently that your partners inbox is empty?Or is it a personality trade or an obsession with him to keep it cleared.Does he keep his phone off or answers it behind your back? Maybe this person is cheating,how is his other actions or maybe you don't like his friends and now he deletes their messages.....it's all a catch 22 really, you know yourself and your partner so maybe if you suspect it its true.
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