Blind dating is only recommended for people who have a sense of humor and who have confidence in themselves to handle any situation that might come along. It is not recommended for control freaks, anxious personalities or individuals that don't handle disappointment or rejection well. If you fear going on a blind date, then don't.However if you are the type that likes adventure and a lot of faith in human beings, then you should have no trouble meeting someone in this way.
Mr. or Mrs. Right? (Part 1 of 2)
So many relationships fail because the parties involved fail to establish the ground rules before they enter into a full time commitment with each other. This is exactly how people suddenly go from saying "I love you" to "Have we met before?" three or four months into the relationship.
So many relationships fail because the parties involved fail to establish the ground rules before they enter into a full time commitment with each other. This is exactly how people suddenly go from saying "I love you" to "Have we met before?" three or four months into the relationship.
Never under-estimate the power of testerone or estrogen to drive unsuspecting victims prematurely to the altar. As Dr. Laura says, in her book "Ten Stupid Things That Women Do to Screw Up Their Lives", heavy breathing does not mean he loves you. He might merely mean he has asthma...
Yet seriously, there is a reason why they say love is blind. Many of us fall under the delusion that we are with Mr. or Mrs. Right while in the throes of passion, only to find out later that love is also deaf and dumb as we refused to hear or communicate our aims with our partner.
In order to determine whether or not your current paramour is Mr. or Mrs. Right, you need to sit down with each other and do your homework. This is more than about just determining whether or not the two of you like the same movies or music. Compatibility is actually about sharing common spiritual values and goals in life. It is also about taking the time to really get to know someone instead of panicking and inserting a finger into an engagement ring "in case no-one better comes along."
Most people fear talking about their relationship for fear that a discussion of practical considerations will deflate the romantic value of the connection. Although this is definitely true, it is better to know the truth about a partner, rather waste your time with a heart that is possibly made of Fool's gold.
The following love discussion may sound a little dogmatic and deliberate, but hey, its not nice to be led down the garden path into a tangled garden full of deceit, infidelity, adultery and lies.
If you want to spare yourself a bad case of "disappointed expectations" I recommend that you make the other person answer the following questions.
I must warn you that the following inquiries contain a comprehensive list of everything that you need to know before you decide to fall in love and that if even one of these questions results in an affirmative reply it means you have encountered a Mr. or Mrs. Wrong. ;-)
The first part of your discussion entails what I call "A Full Disclosure of All Secrets." You need to ask your partner the following:
Yet seriously, there is a reason why they say love is blind. Many of us fall under the delusion that we are with Mr. or Mrs. Right while in the throes of passion, only to find out later that love is also deaf and dumb as we refused to hear or communicate our aims with our partner.
In order to determine whether or not your current paramour is Mr. or Mrs. Right, you need to sit down with each other and do your homework. This is more than about just determining whether or not the two of you like the same movies or music. Compatibility is actually about sharing common spiritual values and goals in life. It is also about taking the time to really get to know someone instead of panicking and inserting a finger into an engagement ring "in case no-one better comes along."
Most people fear talking about their relationship for fear that a discussion of practical considerations will deflate the romantic value of the connection. Although this is definitely true, it is better to know the truth about a partner, rather waste your time with a heart that is possibly made of Fool's gold.
The following love discussion may sound a little dogmatic and deliberate, but hey, its not nice to be led down the garden path into a tangled garden full of deceit, infidelity, adultery and lies.
If you want to spare yourself a bad case of "disappointed expectations" I recommend that you make the other person answer the following questions.
I must warn you that the following inquiries contain a comprehensive list of everything that you need to know before you decide to fall in love and that if even one of these questions results in an affirmative reply it means you have encountered a Mr. or Mrs. Wrong. ;-)
The first part of your discussion entails what I call "A Full Disclosure of All Secrets." You need to ask your partner the following:
Mr. or Mrs. Right? (Part 2 of 2)(Continued from Mr. / Mrs. Right)
Are you currently married, living with someone, in jail, a member of a cult, an alcoholic, a manic depressive, unemployed, scared of clowns, have supernatural powers, have more than two pets or involved in organized or disorganized crime. If he or she answers yes or even "I don't know" to any of these questions, drop him or her like a hot potato!
If your partner succeeds in replying "no" to Part One of the discussion, then you must proceed to Part Two: The Definition of the Relationship. If you like you may even put the following rules down as a paper agreement.
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